Lovely post about finding comfort with the holiday season Kavitha. I love the tradition of holidays, but I think it is okay to share the load of keeping them going. Being un-jangled is the best way to be with family and friends. Sitting out a holiday or two is okay in my book if that what is needed to sooth one's nerves. An evening addressing cards with a handwritten note can be a meaningful way to stay in touch.
Love the Ansh Cowl! Such a smart idea and it is so pretty on you!
Thank you for validating it, Sandy! I love how you said "un-jangled". Exactly, love the thought behind holiday traditions but I don't like how the meaning is lost somewhere in all the drama around it. Ohhh, I can totally picture myself doing that : An evening writing notes to loved ones. Thank you for sharing that! 💗
I feel like I need to print this out and hand it out to some family members because getting together for the holidays with them feels less like a happy get together and more like a moral obligation that they will scold me for skipping out on. It doesn't help that I'm coming up on the one year anniversary of my grandma's passing (2 days before Christmas) so I'm feeling especially raw this year and not that keen on plastering a smile over the wound.
I hear you. I have felt/ feel very similarly in some of my family get togethers. It feels like the whole thing is arranged so we can meet up and judge each other. Honestly, I should be the last person to talk about this, but here I go: what I have realized is sometimes families can be reluctant to accept our adult status and go on treating us like 12 year olds forever. It is up to us to gently point out the years that have passed by. 🙈
It's apt you bring up family struggling to accept a child becoming an adult as that is something happening with a family member. It's frustrating and hard to deal with because they aren't someone I see a lot, so finding a chance to bring up the topic isn't easy.
I have had multiple recs for the Murderbot books! I really should get hold. And yes to making traditions manageable for your circumstances.
A couple of years ago I decided not to send cards by post. I got SUCH a backlash. It still hurts. (I messaged by email, text or What's App my greetings instead).
I have read only the first one in the series and was quite impressed. Also, it is a very short read, so there's some instant gratification. :) I am so sorry, you had to face it. It is not easy to make an 'unpopular' decision and stand by it. Traditions will mean nothing if we don't move with the times and still be kind to one another.
Lovely post about finding comfort with the holiday season Kavitha. I love the tradition of holidays, but I think it is okay to share the load of keeping them going. Being un-jangled is the best way to be with family and friends. Sitting out a holiday or two is okay in my book if that what is needed to sooth one's nerves. An evening addressing cards with a handwritten note can be a meaningful way to stay in touch.
Love the Ansh Cowl! Such a smart idea and it is so pretty on you!
Thank you for validating it, Sandy! I love how you said "un-jangled". Exactly, love the thought behind holiday traditions but I don't like how the meaning is lost somewhere in all the drama around it. Ohhh, I can totally picture myself doing that : An evening writing notes to loved ones. Thank you for sharing that! 💗
I feel like I need to print this out and hand it out to some family members because getting together for the holidays with them feels less like a happy get together and more like a moral obligation that they will scold me for skipping out on. It doesn't help that I'm coming up on the one year anniversary of my grandma's passing (2 days before Christmas) so I'm feeling especially raw this year and not that keen on plastering a smile over the wound.
I hear you. I have felt/ feel very similarly in some of my family get togethers. It feels like the whole thing is arranged so we can meet up and judge each other. Honestly, I should be the last person to talk about this, but here I go: what I have realized is sometimes families can be reluctant to accept our adult status and go on treating us like 12 year olds forever. It is up to us to gently point out the years that have passed by. 🙈
It's apt you bring up family struggling to accept a child becoming an adult as that is something happening with a family member. It's frustrating and hard to deal with because they aren't someone I see a lot, so finding a chance to bring up the topic isn't easy.
Wonderful suggestions to keep us a little more grounded during the festive season Kavitha. Thank you. 😊 I too loved A Song Of Comfortable Chairs.
Thank you. I am loving our common taste with books, Jodie. 🤗
Yeess!! I was just talking about how we have similar tastes in books with my family!
Awwww!! 🤗💝
I have had multiple recs for the Murderbot books! I really should get hold. And yes to making traditions manageable for your circumstances.
A couple of years ago I decided not to send cards by post. I got SUCH a backlash. It still hurts. (I messaged by email, text or What's App my greetings instead).
I have read only the first one in the series and was quite impressed. Also, it is a very short read, so there's some instant gratification. :) I am so sorry, you had to face it. It is not easy to make an 'unpopular' decision and stand by it. Traditions will mean nothing if we don't move with the times and still be kind to one another.
Bright Blessings for you and yours this holiday season
Thank you so much. Heartiest wishes to you and yours as well. ♥️
The Ansh cowl is lovely, Kavitha, and so are your reminders about observing holidays as celebrations rather than obligations. Thank you!
Thank you so much for your kind words. ♥️